Your Dating page
What they see when you tap.
Switch your band to Dating mode for the night. Anyone you tap gets your Dating page, never your work profile.
- Photos
First name and photos
A few photos, a prompt or two, and your interests. No last name, employer or email.
- Where you met
A stamp so they remember
"You met Marcus · Saturday night" so they know exactly who you are.
- Spark
Interested? Spark
They tap "I'd see you again." You only find out if it's mutual, so nobody gets turned down to their face.
- Friend
Send to a friend
They can send your page to a friend for a second opinion, with a link that expires on its own.
- Auto-switch
Back to Pro by morning
Dating mode turns itself off at the time you choose, so you never hand it out at a 9 AM meeting.
- Controls
Hide, block, report
Hide your page with one switch, stop a phone from seeing you again, or tell us if someone crossed a line.
Then, the first date
Break the ice before. Know where you stand after.
First Date Prep
Send your date a quick, fun game. You both answer the same 5 questions, then see what you have in common.
- Takes about a minute to play.
- Food, music, Sundays, concerts. Light and fun.
- AI talking points so the conversation flows.
- Fewer nerves walking in.
First Date Review
No more wondering, no awkward "so… want to do this again?" text. You both answer privately, then see it together.
- Find out if there's a second date.
- See what they enjoyed most.
- Optional, private tips to be even better next time.
- Not a match? It lands gently, for both of you.
Try it here
See how First Date Prep works
Click through each step, or tap the buttons on the phone. This is exactly what you and your date see.
The part that makes it work
Nobody has to go first.
You answer, then they answer. Neither of you sees anything until you've both shared. Then it's revealed to both of you at the same moment. No one gets put on the spot.
How it works
Three taps. That's it.
Add your date
First name, the day, and where. That's all.
Send the game
It goes by text, from your own phone. They play in their browser, no app.
After, send the review
One more text after the date, and you'll both know where things stand.
A little help from AI
Talking points made for the two of you.
After you both play, oysterme turns what you have in common into easy conversation starters. Both of you see the same list. And if you both picked the same concert, we'll let you know when it's in town.
Talking points for Saturday
- You'd both go see Coldplay. Ask which song they'd want to hear live.
- Tacos for both of you. Who has the best spot in town? Settle it.
- Hike vs. brunch: maybe a hike that ends at brunch?
You both picked Coldplay. There's a show near you next month. A second date, if Saturday goes well?
Privacy and safety
Built to feel easy for both of you.
- No app
Your date doesn't need the app
No download, no account. They tap the link in your text and play in their browser.
- Your phone
Sent from your phone
It's your text, from your number. We never text anyone.
- Sealed
Sealed until you both answer
Nobody sees a thing until you've both shared.
- Tips
Tips stay private
Only shared if you opt in, and only you see the tips meant for you.
- Notes
Kind by design
Notes are checked automatically, and anything rude never gets sent.
- Exit
Easy to say no
"Not for me" and "I don't feel safe" are always one tap away.
After the date
Find out if there was a spark.
First Date Review is a private, sealed check-in after you meet. You'll both find out if the in-person spark was mutual, and get kind, useful feedback that helps you both get better at dating.
Sealed and secure
Answers stay locked until you've both shared. The link works once, only on the phone that opens it first, and expires after 72 hours.
Was there a spark?
Both said yes? It's a match for date #2. Not mutual? Nobody gets a "no" to their face. It lands gently for both of you.
Feedback that helps
Opt in to private tips like "ask more questions" or "pick a quieter spot." Never about looks, and only you see the tips meant for you.
Try it here
See how First Date Review works
Click through each step, and flip between "Match" and "Not a match" to see both endings.
Pricing
Absolutely free. No credit card.
Dating mode on your band is part of Plus, and Plus is free during the beta.
Free
$0, free forever. No credit card, ever.
- First Date Prep and First Date Review
- 2 dates a month
- AI talking points
- Second date teaser when you match on a concert
Plus Coming soon
For people dating actively
- Unlimited dates
- Custom questions and up to 10 per game
- Second date ideas: shows and spots near you
- Your first-date insights over time
The same band works at work.
Flip back to Professional mode and your band shares your work profile instead. Anyone who met you there keeps seeing that side.
Questions
Good to know.
Does my date need to download anything?
No. They get a text from you, tap the link, and play in their phone's browser. No app, no account.
Does it work with Bumble, Hinge and other apps?
Yes. oysterme works for any first date, however you met. Just add your date's first name and send the link by text.
Is it really free?
Yes. No credit card, no trial that turns into a charge. Prep and Review are free for 2 dates a month, forever. If we ever add an optional Plus plan for extras, you'll choose it yourself. Nothing changes on your free account.
Who sends the text?
You do, from your own phone, like any text. oysterme never texts anyone.
What if it's not a match?
You'll both see "Not a match this time," plus what each of you enjoyed. No notes, no awkwardness.
Your next first date, made easy.
Join free in about a minute. Add your date, send the game, and walk in with something to talk about.
Your date doesn't need the app. They play right from your text.